In the world of financial domination (FinDom), the first approach can often be the most daunting. This is particularly true when reaching out to a FinDomme on Twitter/X (if you can be bothered to call it that!), a platform notorious for its public and fast-paced nature. However, with the right strategy and respect, approaching a FinDomme on Twitter can be a rewarding experience.
What not to do:
If I had to write an entire list of what not to do, this post would never be published. So, here are my top recommendations:
Do not demand anything - this will not lead to the desired response you think it will
Do not write an in-depth essay or monologue about your fantasies - it’s likely the FinDomme won’t even read it. We’re not getting paid for that
Don’t start your first message with “Hi” or “You’re hot” - we hear this Every. Single. Day.
If you just want to compliment the FinDomme then send a tribute!
So there are the basics of what not to do and here are the steps on what to do!
Step 1: RESEARCH
The first step is to research. Before sliding into their DMs, take the time to understand the FinDomme's preferences and boundaries as many share their rules and expectations on their profile. Understanding these rules not only shows respect, but also that you've taken an interest in them as a person. You can get a feel for what they’re into by looking at their posts or if they have other platforms, such as LoyalFans and or IWantClips, you can see the kind of content they post. If you don’t see your kink or fetish, then asking politely in a clear and succinct message if they cater to it isn’t a problem!
Step 2: “Manners Maketh Man”
Your first message should be respectful and succinct. Introduce yourself, express your interest, and ask if you can proceed with the conversation. Remember, consent is critical in all aspects of FinDomme. If you’re inquiring about servitude, particularly to a FinDomme, usually an initial tribute is required.
Step 3: Initial Tributes to a FinDomme
The concept of initial tributes is a cornerstone of the FinDom dynamic. An initial tribute is essentially a financial gift that a submissive offers to a FinDomme as a sign of respect and dedication. This gesture demonstrates the submissive's serious intent and willingness to submit to the FinDomme's control. The amount varies and should be within the submissive's means. It's not about the amount of money, but rather the act of submission and the desire to please the FinDomme.
Many will have their preferred payment sites, such as; Wishtender, LoyalFans, IWantClips, etc. and amount of initial tribute posted. If they don’t include this in your first message. Most FinDomme’s will respond as you’re showing interest and asking politely.
Example:
“Hello [FinDomme’s name/ preferred title]
I was hoping to find out if you offer / cater to [Enter kinks/fetishes/fantasies here]. I’ve [Seen/not seen] you post about it on your feed so wanted to enquire further.
Before I share any more, what is your preferred platform for initial tribute & how much is it?
I look forward to hearing from you. Thank you!”
This is a perfect example of a first message to a domme that gets your intentions conveyed quickly and effectively.
Step 4: To respond or not to respond? That is the question.
Lastly, be prepared for rejection or silence. Not every approach will be met with a positive response. If using the example template above, most will respond as it’s polite and easy to read. If a FinDomme does not respond or declines your approach, respect their decision and move on. Persistence can be seen as harassment and is likely to result in being blocked.
Above all, remember that FinDomme is a consensual power exchange. Respect and consent should be at the forefront of all your interactions. By approaching a FinDomme on Twitter with understanding and respect, you're taking the first step towards a potentially fulfilling dynamic.
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